Let me just say before I begin, I am not married. Heck, I’ve never been engaged. I’ve never had to decide on a wedding venue, pick a DJ, consider catering options, or cut down on a guest list. I know planning a wedding is hard. There’s so much to consider, so many opinions coming from every direction, and it can be challenging to make everyone around you happy.
But, I have been to a number of weddings (both as a member of the wedding party and as a guest), so I guess I would call myself an expert at attending weddings? I’m not sure if one can be an expert at attending weddings, but I digress.
If you’re currently planning a wedding, there’s a good chance you want your wedding guests to have fun, right? But, oftentimes, couples spend too much time worrying about details guests just simply don’t care about.
While your wedding day should be all about what you and your partner want, there are some things you just shouldn’t stress over and some things you should pay more attention to.
Care About — Food
I’ve been to weddings that served extremely fancy food and I’ve been to weddings that served fast food (no seriously, like burgers and fries). And let me tell you, the fast-food wedding was so much more satisfying.
Don’t stress out or spend all your money on extremely fancy food just to make your guests happy. Wedding guests just want to have a satisfying meal that gives them enough energy to dance and stay up past midnight.
Don’t Care About — Flowers
I could not tell you the flowers at any of the weddings I’ve attended. It’s not that they weren’t beautiful or didn’t go great with the decor, it’s just that it was not something I ever paid attention to. And I can almost guarantee 90% of wedding guests don’t notice either.
Now, this isn’t to say you shouldn’t have flowers. Have as many flowers as you want! But, don’t worry about spending an arm and a leg to have a fancier flower arrangement. People. Don’t. Care.
Care About — Music
Arguably the most important aspect of a wedding is the music. It’s what gets people unified in one place and it’s where people have the most fun. But, if the music is bad, the energy of a wedding goes way down.
Whether you decide to have a DJ or a band, take some time selecting songs you know will get your guests out on the dance floor. While DJs and band leaders usually have a good idea of what songs to play, only you and your partner know the personality of the guests.
For example, one of my best friends got married a couple of years ago and decided to have a DJ. She sent the DJ a list of songs she knew would get her guests on the dance floor, one of those songs being “Love Story” by Taylor Swift. Now, I wouldn’t say “Love Story” is a traditional wedding song, but let me tell you, it was the song of the night. Every single person at the wedding was on their feet scream-singing the chorus by the end of the song. It’s a wedding moment I’ll never forget and it’s all because the bride took a little time to think about the music choices.
Don’t Care About — Tiny Details
If you want to monogram all your napkins with you and your partner’s initials, by all means, do it! But your guests won’t notice. Or they’ll notice at the moment, but it won’t stick with them once the wedding is over.
Couples often spend a lot of money on tiny details truly no one remembers. From seating charts to name tags to other knickknacks, don’t feel the need to spend thousands and thousands of dollars on these tiny details. But again, if you want to do it, don’t let me be the one to stop you!
At the end of the day, the most important thing is that you and your partner are happy and love the wedding you plan. But, if your goal is to make sure your guests have a ball, don’t sweat the small stuff. Truly, all we care about is that the music is good and our bellies are full.
