Friendships are arguably the most important relationships we’ll ever have. Sure, family is incredibly important, as are romantic relationships, but friends are the family we choose, right? They’re the people who get us through the hardest moments of our lives and celebrate the biggest moments, too.
So, whether you’re struggling to make friends, need a little guidance on how to navigate a specific friendship, or want to be a better friend yourself, here’s a little inspiration to help you on your way.
No Fair-Weather Friends
It’s important to know who your real friends are. As Oprah says in the quote above, some selfish people are much more likely to be friends with you and treat you well if they can get something out of it for themselves. In fact, celebrities often talk about how it’s hard for them to make real friends because many people only spend time with them to enjoy the perks.
Don’t waste your time on people who are only there for the good stuff. Look around and see who’s still standing by your side when times are tough. Who’s there for you when you have nothing to give? Those are your real friends.
Treat Others the Way You Want To Be Treated
You can’t expect to have a great group of friends if you’re not a good friend yourself. If you find yourself complaining about your lack of friendships, take inventory of your own life. How are you treating the people in your life? Are you true to your word? Do you think of others? As the classic saying goes, “treat others the way you’d like to be treated.” It’s as simple as that.
Through the Good and the Bad
You often figure out who your real friends are when you go through something difficult. It’s very easy for people to be friends when things are going well, but it’s a whole different ballgame when stuff starts to get tough. People often run at the first sign of discomfort, especially in friendships.
If you’re trying to figure out who your real friends are, think about a time when you were going through something hard. Whether it was losing a loved one or getting over a tough breakup, the ones who are by your side for the tough stuff are worth your time and energy.
Don’t Be Afraid to Meet New People
If you’re having a hard time making friends, now is not the time to close yourself off. In fact, take every opportunity possible to meet new people. Go to new events, say yes to social activities, and introduce yourself to new people. While it’s certainly intimidating to walk into a group of strangers, you could easily walk out with a group of friends!
Distance Will Never Tear a Real Friendship Apart
As we get older, it’s only natural for our friendships to grow and evolve. Your friendships during your twenties and thirties are going to be very different from your friendships in your teens. The friends you make later in life are no less valuable. And, while it may seem scary to go from seeing your friends every single day in school or work to maybe only seeing them a few times a year, true friendships can withstand any amount of distance or time.
You don’t need to see someone every day or talk with them on the phone every week to call them a friend. Whether you see them once a week, once a year, or once every ten years, the foundation of your friendship remains the same.
