Illuminate your life, Pumpkin. You deserve it.
How To
Say No
To a
Marriage Proposal
Illuminate your life, Pumpkin. You deserve it.

Be Direct And Don’t Delay

No matter how hard it is, you need to be clear and not sugarcoat your response. You cannot spare their feelings by trying to let them down slowly. And you don’t want to give them false hope. A direct “no” might seem harsh, but it’s kinder than dragging out the inevitable rejection or leading them on.

Illuminate your life, Pumpkin. You deserve it.

Be Sincere and Compassionate

Honesty is the best policy, but there’s no need to be cruel. Being direct doesn’t mean you have to be blunt, cold, or rub your unreciprocated feelings in their face. While saying no is undoubtedly going to be hard on you, it’s going to be even harder on them.

Illuminate your life, Pumpkin. You deserve it.

Hold Yourself Emotionally Accountable

If you’re going to say no, take responsibility for what you’re feeling and more specifically, what you’re not feeling. You’re not responsible for their feelings or their emotional well-being. You are only responsible for yourself and yours. So own your answer.

Illuminate your life, Pumpkin. You deserve it.

Don’t Make Excuses

Giving any sort of excuse will only imply your answer might change. Your “no” needs to be concrete. If your courtship has been brief, telling them you don’t know each other well enough may not sound like a no. Instead of hearing “I can’t marry you” their hopeful ears may hear there’s a chance you’ll change your mind.

Illuminate your life, Pumpkin. You deserve it.

Be Firm, Not Flaky

The one thing you can’t control is how they’ll respond. Your SO might be unable to accept your decision or a conflict may arise. There’s also a chance they’ll beg you to reconsider. Be strong. The best thing you can do if they won’t take your no as the final word is to take some space for you both to process this. And do it right away.

Illuminate your life, Pumpkin. You deserve it.

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